Type A Personalities and Babies: Like Oil and Water

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I am Type A.  What’s the point of denying it?  If it looks like a duck, and sounds like a duck, then, people, most likely it is is duck.  I have always been type A.  Having a baby has not changed my Type A personality but has certainly challenged it.  It is hard to have a baby and maintain the Type a-ness that existed pre-baby.  Here are the facts:  babies are unpredictable.  They change, they are almost never the same month to month or even week to week, and they do NOT care if you are type a.  Yup, read it and weep.  This is probably this hardest thing that I have dealt with psychologically since becoming a Mommy.  I find great comfort in solid predictable cause and effect relationships.  Like eat too much candy, you will get a stomach ache.  Study hard for a test, you will do well.  So, if “sleep begets sleep” and baby has great naps one day, he should sleep amazingly at night, right?  Not so much.  And if you coo and smile and play the BEST game of peekaboo in. your. life, baby will be in a good mood, right?  Nope. If you feed him a crap-ton during the day he won’t need to eat in the middle of the night, right?  Ha.  Not really. Waaaaaaiiitt…if you sing the most amazing rendition of old Mac Donald had a Farm, the baby will stop crying.  Right?  I mean it worked yesterday!  Ha!  There it is! “It worked yesterday” just doesn’t work with babies.  It just doesn’t. And THAT, my friends, MESSES with my type A!  So, if you are a control-freak like me (the pinnacle of a type a personality), you might have a REALLY hard time with the uncontrollable nature of a baby.  After all, they are babies!  There is a reason there are a million bajillion (that’s a word, right?) books out there on all things from baby sleep to baby development.  Because ALL BABIES, like all humans ARE DIFFERENT.  And if you try to control them, or make them adjust to your type a personality (ahem, I am talking to myself here) it just wont work.  So what do you do?  What have I done?  Well, first an foremost, I remind myself that Zach is just a baby.  And I look at a lot of cute pictures of him, or his adorbs self if he is awake.  And I use the love I have for him to calm my inner type a.  Really. But FOR REAL!  Well I have attempted to harness this negative energy into something positive, something I CAN control, like running.  I also try to engage in “self talk.”  Sounds like crazy town, eh?  But no, self talk is a way to talk yourself through situations in order to “get a grip” lol.  It can be something like a mantra such as “let go…” or just reasoning with yourself, like “this is just a phase.  He can’t possibly get up four times a night for his whole life.”  Really.  Anyway, tell me: are you type a?  How does it interfere with your life?  How do you deal with it?  And if you aren’t type a (lucky person hehe), what challenges does your personality pose?  Oh and here is your daily Zach cuteness for the day.

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